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| I recently met the perfect man through some friends but he's just divorced after his wife left him for a close mate. Hence, he's very, very damaged emotionally. We spent about a week together and it was just perfect - exactly what both of us needed. We both acknowledged that we wanted a relationship together and began to discuss how we could slowly introduce the idea of us to his daughter who spends every second week with him. However, as quickly as it began he 'pulled the pin' on everything, apologising profusely for hurting me by doing so. He was very complimentary and confessed that he 'thought he was ready but he's not'. I accept this - I know he's been honest with me. The problem is, I am devastated. I was very ready and really do feel that he was 'right' for me and I for him. It's been three months since and we've had some contact over emails only (i can't bring myself to phone) and the contact is generally of a non-personal or trivial type. All contact is initiated by me. If I say anything complimentary or kind he does not reply. Advice I've had is to keep in touch as a friend but allow him his space to grieve etc. and when he's ready he might let me know. At the time, he said he expected I'd have 'moved on' by the time he was ready but I don't meet that many men I feel strongly for (usually meet about one every two-three years) so I'm not sure I will have. I'm happy to be friends but must admit to myself that I would really like something more. I really need a man's perspective on this because it's not an experience I've ever dealt with before and neither have any of my friends. Are there any men out there that can clarify what is the best thing for me to do? - I haven't 'harrassed' him, have most definitely given him his space etc and will continue to but I am wondering if I should bother to continue staying in touch now and then or disappear completely for a while. I'd really like a few blokes to give me their experienced advice on this.
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